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Before you listen, just something to keep in mind…

This isn’t advice.
And it’s not something you need to figure out.

It’s a different way of understanding
what’s happening in one small moment —
the one that keeps pulling you back in.

You’ve probably been here more times than you can count.

You’re trying to help.
You’re thinking it through.
You’re doing your best to respond the “right” way.

And still…

you walk away wondering
if you made it worse.

What most mums don’t realise is…

It’s not just what you’re doing in those moments.

There are patterns underneath them —
and once you start to see that,
things begin to make a bit more sense.

So when you listen…

Don’t try to get it right.
Don’t try to change anything.

Just notice.