You don’t have to keep carrying this alone.
There is a steadier way forward — and Beyond the Chaos is where you learn a different way of showing up in this relationship.
Beyond the Chaos is an ongoing membership for mums navigating their child’s addiction or mental health — offering a different way to stay connected, helping you move from reacting out of fear and responsibility toward steadiness, clarity, and connection.
So you can stay connected, protect your wellbeing, and keep influence possible — without losing yourself.
Membership is $67 NZD per month — cancel anytime.
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If this feels familiar, you’re not alone
You love your child deeply.
And at the same time… you feel like you’re carrying more than anyone can see.
You might find yourself:
- thinking about them constantly — even when you’re trying to focus on something else
- Â second-guessing every decision
- Â feeling responsible for keeping things from getting worse
- holding it together on the outside while inside you feel exhausted or anxious
- Â searching for the right words, the right approach, the right way to help.
And underneath it all, there’s often a quiet fear that’s hard to say out loud:
“If I stop doing everything… and something happens… it will be my fault.”
So you keep going.
You keep trying.
You keep carrying.
Even when part of you knows that doing more isn’t always helping — and you’re not sure what else to do.
If this feels familiar, it doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It means you’ve been carrying something incredibly heavy without the kind of support that truly understands this life.
There is another way.
Many mums arrive here after trying everything they know — learning more, doing more, holding more — hoping something will finally make things feel steadier.
But real change rarely comes from pressure or trying harder.
It begins with understanding what’s actually happening underneath — and learning a different way of showing up so you can stay steady, connected, and grounded even when things feel uncertain.
Beyond the Chaos is where this work moves from insight into lived practice — with structure, guidance, and steady support.
Beyond the Chaos is where insight becomes lived practice.
This is a space where you begin learning how to stay engaged differently — in ways that strengthen connection and keep influence possible over time.
How Beyond the Chaos supports real change
Beyond the Chaos is a steady, structured space designed to support real change over time — without overwhelm or pressure.
Here’s what you’ll find inside:
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The Path — Gentle, guided learning
A structured series of gentle, practical lessons designed to help you understand what’s really happening — and begin shifting how you show up inside the relationship.
You’ll explore:
- what’s happening underneath behaviour
- why reacting from fear is so common — and how to shift it
- communication and boundary approaches that support connection
- tools you can use in real-life moments.
Start with Lesson 1 and move forward at a pace that feels manageable.
Members-Only Podcast — Journey Beyond the Chaos
Private episodes created specifically for members.
A steady companion between lessons and coaching calls — offering grounded insight, reflection, and support you can return to anytime.
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Coaching Calls — Steady support and deeper reflection
Weekly group calls designed to help you integrate what you’re learning and apply it to real-life situations.
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Podcast Reflection Calls — deepen understanding together
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Support & Q+A Calls — gentle guidance and shared learning
A Private Community — with mums who truly get it
A calm space where you don’t have to explain everything from the beginning.
No fixing. No judgement. Just steady understanding.
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This space is for mums who:
- loves their child deeply but feels exhausted from carrying so much responsibility on your own
-  finds yourself reacting from fear, urgency, or overwhelm — even when you want to respond differently
-  understand you can’t control your child’s choices… but still feel responsible for what happens next
-  want to rebuild connection without losing yourself or sacrificing your own wellbeing
-  are looking for steady support and real understanding — not judgement or pressure
-  want to understand what’s really happening underneath behaviour and learn new ways of responding that feel more aligned with who you want to be.
You don’t need to have everything figured out.
You don’t need to be ready to change everything overnight.
All that's needed is a willingness to begin — one steady step at a time.
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How joining works
When you join Beyond the Chaos, everything is designed to help you arrive gently — with a clear place to begin and no pressure to move faster than feels right for you.
Step 1 — Join and arrive
As soon as you join, you’ll have immediate access to the membership space, including your starting point inside The Path and the members-only podcast.
You won’t need to figure out where to begin — your first step is already waiting for you.
There’s nothing to catch up on and no expectation to do everything at once.
Step 2 — Begin gently
You might start by listening to the members-only podcast, or by exploring the first guided lesson — whichever feels most supportive in the moment.
This work isn’t about doing more.
It’s about learning to move differently, at a pace that feels steady and sustainable.
Step 3 — Connect in your own way
Some members join coaching calls straight away. Others prefer to listen quietly at first.
You’re welcome to introduce yourself in the community — or simply observe until you feel ready.
There is no “right” way to begin here.
"Beyond the Chaos has been life-changing in a subtle, meaningful way."
Founding Member
"The weekly bite-sized lessons never feel overwhelming, and the coaching calls help steady me when things with my son get hard."
Founding Member
"Sandra helped me through the toughest year of my life.
Her calming, compassionate nature made it possible to understand what was really happening beneath the addiction and the behaviours."
Coaching Client
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If what you’ve read here feels familiar, the next step isn’t to do more — it’s simply to begin experiencing this work from the inside.
Most mums don’t join because everything has changed.
They join because they’re ready to begin relating differently — even while things are still uncertain.
You don’t need to feel completely ready. Many members arrive while life still feels messy, emotional, or unresolved.
Membership investment
$67 NZD per month
(cancel anytime)
When you arrive, you’ll find:
- A clear starting point inside Lesson 1 of The Path
- Â Members-only Journey Beyond the Chaos private podcast
- Weekly coaching support (Podcast Reflection + Support & Q&A calls)
- Â Private community with mums who truly understand
- Ongoing guidance designed to help you respond differently — with steadiness, clarity, and connection
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Stay for as long as feels supportive for you.
Supported Entry for This Intake
If you join before Wednesday 4th March, you’ll also receive a personal 1:1 onboarding call with Sandra — designed to give you a clear place to begin.
You don’t need to arrive already steady or knowing how to do this well. Most members begin while they’re still reacting, still unsure, and still figuring things out — and that’s exactly what this space is designed to support.
You don’t have to do this alone anymore.
There comes a point where doing more, learning more, or trying harder doesn’t bring the steadiness you’re looking for.
Change begins when you feel supported — when you have space to pause, understand what’s really happening, and respond differently without carrying everything by yourself.
Beyond the Chaos isn’t about fixing your child or becoming a perfect parent.
It’s about learning a different way of showing up — staying grounded, connected, and clear even when things feel uncertain.
If you’re ready for steadier support and a different way forward, this is where you begin.
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