Support for mums navigating addiction or mental health challenges in their adult children — without losing yourself in the process.
Steady, grounded support to help you stay present, reduce urgency, and navigate this with clarity — while keeping connection and influence possible.
Why this feels so hard
When someone you love is struggling, your body learns to stay on high alert.
You scan for signs. You anticipate what might happen next. You replay conversations, decisions, and moments — wondering if you said the right thing, or missed something important.
Over time, that constant readiness can start to feel like the only option.
Like responsibility.
Like love.
Like the only way to keep things from getting worse.
So if you feel exhausted, overwhelmed, or unsure how to show up anymore — that doesn’t mean you’re doing this wrong.
It means your system has been working overtime to protect what matters most.
A different way to show up
Much of the advice offered to parents sits at the extremes —
try harder and fix everything
or
step back and detach completely.
Neither reflects the reality of loving a child you can’t control.
My work is grounded in a different approach.
I don’t believe change comes from pressure, fear, or doing more.
And I don’t believe disappearing from the relationship creates safety or trust.
Instead, we focus on learning how to:
• stay emotionally present without over-functioning
• understand behaviour without excusing harm
• set boundaries that protect connection, not punish it
• regulate your own nervous system so you’re not living in constant urgency
This work isn’t about giving up.
And it’s not about caring less.
It’s about learning how to stay engaged, steady, and influential —
even when outcomes remain uncertain.Â
How to work with meÂ
Listen
Journey Beyond the Chaos is a private podcast for mums living this reality.
It offers steady, grounded conversations to help you understand what’s happening, calm the noise, and feel less alone — without pressure to fix or change anything.
You can listen quietly, in your own time, and come back whenever you need.
Listen to the Private PodcastJoin
Beyond the Chaos is my ongoing membership for mums who want consistent support and a steadier way forward.
Inside, you’ll find:
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a members-only version of the podcast
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gentle lessons that build clarity and confidence over time
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a private community with others who understand
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weekly group coaching calls
This is for mums who want support that’s structured, calm, and sustainable — without pressure or overwhelm.
Learn more about the MembershipWork 1:1
Sometimes things feel especially heavy — or you need more personalised support.
I offer 1:1 coaching and email-based support for mums who want a contained, thoughtful space to explore what’s coming up and decide how to move forward.
More 1:1 support available soon
About Sandra
I’m Sandra — a mum who has lived this journey, and a Recovery & Resilience Coach who understands both the emotional and practical realities that come with it.
I work with mums who are trying to love their adult child through addiction or mental health challenges, while also trying to hold onto themselves.
My work is shaped by lived experience, professional training, and years of walking alongside women who are navigating uncertainty, fear, hope, and exhaustion — often all at once.
I don’t promise outcomes I can’t control.
And I don’t believe change comes from pressure, fear, or trying harder.
What I do offer is steady, respectful support — helping you protect your wellbeing, stay connected where possible, and show up in ways that feel aligned with who you are.
You don’t have to do this perfectly.
You don’t have to do it alone.
Listen to Private PodcastIf you’ve found your way here, chances are you’ve been carrying more than anyone realises.
You’re allowed to move at your own pace.
You’re allowed to take support without committing to anything more.Whether you start by listening, joining the community, or reaching out for more personal support — you’re welcome here.Â
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